tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post187848316011348388..comments2023-11-05T04:23:05.050-08:00Comments on Finding My Way Home: The Nosey Pharmacist....thailandchanihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-77045598432009291202007-10-01T00:56:00.000-07:002007-10-01T00:56:00.000-07:00I don't see how he was trying to impose cultural v...I don't see how he was trying to impose cultural values on you. To me it seems he was just offering advice and went about it the wrong way. He probably just needs to refine his approach tecnique. <BR/>And without wanting to offend you I know from personal experience that physical excercise that increases lung and heart function also helps a person to sleep more soundly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-54983547335415687252007-09-26T11:57:00.000-07:002007-09-26T11:57:00.000-07:00I agree with the others and second their opinions ...I agree with the others and second their opinions about his being out of line. And while I hate it when I lose my temper, too, sometimes I have to believe that it is better than the alternative (as several posters already commented, as well). If we are forever holding our tongues, those who may need to hear what we have to say never hear it and 2) our tongues get really tired from all the holding. Was it Eleanor Roosevelt who said that no one can make us feel inferior without our consent? The truth is that anger can teach us, yes? I'm trying to grasp the realization of this truth. It's so hard. Hugs to you, Chani.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09609676792430545424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-55466655084012069642007-09-25T19:36:00.000-07:002007-09-25T19:36:00.000-07:00Chani baby. It's ok to lose it once in a while you...Chani baby. It's ok to lose it once in a while you know.<BR/><BR/>Maybe, karmicly, it needed to be out there.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-11249232812246738582007-09-24T18:52:00.000-07:002007-09-24T18:52:00.000-07:00I am so appalled that a pharmacist (or pharmacy te...I am so appalled that a pharmacist (or pharmacy tech) had the audacity to say such things to ANYONE! Whether he knew what he was talking about or not, that is a serious breach of policy and ethics. <BR/><BR/>And hey, if he's making these kind of comments to you, I imagine he's speaking this way to other customers. Imagine the people without thicker skin, and how they feel when they hear this kind of thing. If I were in your shoes, I would write a strongly worded (and objectively proof-read) letter to the store manager and cc it to the corporate office. <BR/><BR/>Confrontation is a drag. I'm sure after you told him off, you don't want to take it further. But he needs to be corrected or he'll continue to do it.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry this happened. You don't need this at all.<BR/><BR/>NOW.<BR/>What's a shenpa?Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691876103706372760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-7307781421372694922007-09-24T07:05:00.000-07:002007-09-24T07:05:00.000-07:00I quickly browsed the comments...you really hit a ...I quickly browsed the comments...you really hit a nerve with people on this one! I agree that I would transfer my prescriptions. Furthermore, I would address in writing to an upper level employee as to why I was doing so. The pharmacist completely crossed the line of professionalism. <BR/><BR/>Another note is that he is clearly not working hard enough if he has time to notice how long or how often people are in Target. I don't care what they are wearing!! The pharmacists I know are so busy that they hardly ever look up, much less log people's shopping habits and postulate on their lifestyle...<BR/><BR/>I urge you to take some action so that others who are not as sturdy as you seem to be will be protected from his judgment and erroneous advice!!!headlesschickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01167507826951829467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-10412294207051927362007-09-22T18:57:00.000-07:002007-09-22T18:57:00.000-07:00how awful and presumptuous that man was! i think ...how awful and presumptuous that man was! i think we all can completely understand your reaction to his lame diatribe. try to forgive yourself a little. hopefully you won't have to see him again!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-91117623110253102622007-09-21T18:43:00.000-07:002007-09-21T18:43:00.000-07:00Chani, I think that went way above and beyond inap...Chani, I think that went way above and beyond inappropriate.<BR/>My mouth was agape reading what he said to you.<BR/><BR/>Wow. I'm shaking my head a bit stunned.<BR/>I'm sorry, Chani.Tabbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07571583646468537273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-28695499011623214032007-09-21T16:58:00.000-07:002007-09-21T16:58:00.000-07:00We all lose it occassionally. yikes. what would ...We all lose it occassionally. yikes. what would be the "right" thing to do in such an occasion? that's the hard question. It's easy to say "what I did was wrong" but what on earth is the RIGHT thing to do at times like that? I don't know.painted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-55110725640088107472007-09-21T11:19:00.000-07:002007-09-21T11:19:00.000-07:00I really hope you write a letter to the manager to...I really hope you write a letter to the manager to protect others. Not everyone is as secure in her purpose as you, and someone else could really be wounded by his words. (I agree with all the above, in other words!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-90035066051256203932007-09-21T08:41:00.000-07:002007-09-21T08:41:00.000-07:00I am sorry that you found yourself in such a situa...I am sorry that you found yourself in such a situation.<BR/><BR/>as you can see from all of the comments above, you were clearly provoked by inappropriate behaviour. try not to beat yourself up over your reaction. from what I know of you, you will learn from this and be better prepared for the next time. (oh, please don't let there be a next time!)Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690660290319444722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-82828504624523870592007-09-21T08:06:00.000-07:002007-09-21T08:06:00.000-07:00Susan, I think my blood pressure was darn near str...Susan, I think my blood pressure was darn near stroke level! That Nazi will probably be a bit more careful with me in the future, unless he would like to be embarrassed in front of other customers again. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Meno, thanks. You probably would have been disappointed in me. Most people expect me to be a bit more mature. LOL<BR/><BR/>Still, yes, he did need a set down. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Liv, definitely a shenpa. I recognized that later. It's one I'll have to get over.. because it's bound to happen repeatedly until I get to Thailand. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Mitzh, thanks. :) He really did have some harsh words coming. Can you imagine...? <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>SM, that occurred to me, too. Someone, somewhere, would view him as an authority figure (which I don't) and take him seriously. They might even disregard their doctor's treatment plan. You know, just make someone feel like a cultural failure. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>MsPea, I'm not sorry I reacted. The only thing I'm really sorry about is that I used sarcasm instead of simply saying, "This is a conversation we are not going to have."<BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>QT, I can only imagine what he says to other people! Apparently his obsequious allegiance to his twisted cultural values are more important than his common sense. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Molly, I do have a sharp tongue... and can be rather cutting and biting. I don't like that about me.. at all. As I said above, I wish I'd had the jai yen to just tell him to stop talking. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Snos, the darned clothes! LOL You know, I don't even think about it anymore.. or pay any attention to anyone noticing. It's been too long I guess. <BR/><BR/>Hopefully my reading the guy off accomplished something. Hopefully he will know in the future that he needs to save his preaching for church.. and handle customers with professionalism. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Carla, he was a presumptuous ass. No doubt about it! <BR/><BR/>The next time I have to fill a scrip, I'd better see different behavior.. that's for sure! Or, ideally, I won't have to deal with him at all. <BR/><BR/>What a jerk!<BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>DesertPea, perhaps I was a bit vulnerable. That often happens here where I feel so out of place anyway. Then to hear the things he said... yes, I lost it. Just plain lost it!<BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Pam, I hope so. Perhaps he will be a bit more cautious, never knowing who might tell him to "stand down" in no uncertain terms. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Reflecting, I hope they set him right, too. <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>De, thanks. :) <BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Cecilieaux, never leave home without it. :)<BR/><BR/>~*<BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-37988563039752442642007-09-21T06:26:00.000-07:002007-09-21T06:26:00.000-07:00Hmm ... Buddhist card, can you charge enlightenmen...Hmm ... Buddhist card, can you charge enlightenment with it?Cecilio Moraleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05283375962527765787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-65907041986479978832007-09-21T06:19:00.000-07:002007-09-21T06:19:00.000-07:00Wow, my mouth is agape just reading about it.I'm s...Wow, my mouth is agape just reading about it.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry that this happened.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-42554470795881125812007-09-21T05:32:00.000-07:002007-09-21T05:32:00.000-07:00I hope you write a letter to the manager of his st...I hope you write a letter to the manager of his statements. They were rude and uncalled for. Hopefully your comments set him right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-32583459904350450352007-09-21T04:30:00.000-07:002007-09-21T04:30:00.000-07:00Shame on him! I agree with AC, maybe your reactio...Shame on him! I agree with AC, maybe your reaction will save others from the same fate.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040757371778588395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-26447196401367875682007-09-21T02:05:00.000-07:002007-09-21T02:05:00.000-07:00I know exactly how you feel. I am more angry at my...I know exactly how you feel. I am more angry at myself than at the other person after I feel I haven't responded they I would usually do. <BR/><BR/>But I think you lost it because you were already in a vulnerable state when you entered Target and that's not a great prerequisite to good reacting to offense. Don't beat yourself up for that.<BR/><BR/>At the end of the day I would say he was looking for trouble and he got it - deserved even :)blooming desertpeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03123794891431225612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-45428154935144385322007-09-20T23:29:00.000-07:002007-09-20T23:29:00.000-07:00Wow!!! I'm shocked at the audacity of that pharma...Wow!!! I'm shocked at the audacity of that pharmacist. No one likes to loose their temper, but on the other hand, this guy deserved to be put in his place...and as unpleasant as it is, someone has to do that job or this guy will just do the same thing to the next customer. And really, his job is to fill your prescriptions, not question your doctor or assume to know how to cure your ailments. I would file a complaint and then get a new pharmacist.Carlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08423696800295940382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-12420860846425425962007-09-20T21:17:00.000-07:002007-09-20T21:17:00.000-07:00Yes, now that makes sense - you do stand out due t...Yes, now that makes sense - you do stand out due to your clothing. But it's still creepy.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes these things deserve a reaction along the lines of how you reacted. Me personally, I would rather react than say nothing, it is healthier as Molly said. But most of the time I don't react.<BR/><BR/>I was sitting in my car the other day and someone started sweeping along the path where the car was parked. I heard their broom touch my car. I took a deep breath and tried to remain calm, but had I heard it a second time I already had my hand on the door latch to launch myself out of the car and rip this guy a new one. Like, couldn't you wait a couple of minutes until we're gone?<BR/><BR/>When the other half got back to the car I told him what happened and he said "Why didn't you say something?" - it was then I realised I was mad at myself because I kept my mouth shut when I should not have.<BR/><BR/>I think you did the right thing there and then. I think doing the right thing now means putting together a letter and reporting it. So many times we don't want to do that because we feel like it is making trouble but I think it is important for everyone who happens to get a script from him in the future.<BR/><BR/>Snoskred<BR/><A HREF="http://www.snoskred.org/" REL="nofollow">www.snoskred.org</A>Snoskredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12670406702782244306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-75359367816077378362007-09-20T20:53:00.000-07:002007-09-20T20:53:00.000-07:00Chani, I'm chuckling here and wondering how the Da...Chani, I'm chuckling here and wondering how the Dali Lama would have reacted to such an attack. Mr. Nosy would probably keep him in his sights too, if he happened to be wandering around Target, especially in those orange robes! I'm in awe that you were able to pick your chin up so quickly and let him have it so articulately. In situations like that I usually don't come up with the perfect rejoinder until half an hour later. I don't think you should feel bad. You did the healthiest thing. Imagine the damage to your blood pressure if you'd kept all those scathing remarks bottled up inside??mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797484583400519909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-7714928646210720022007-09-20T19:48:00.000-07:002007-09-20T19:48:00.000-07:00Chani - I agree with what others have said re: rep...Chani - I agree with what others have said re: reporting him. He was way out of line. Does he also ask people who are picking up birth control pills if they are married or not and then lecture them about abstinence???<BR/><BR/>Try not to feel too bad about your reaction. I think it was natural....QThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15544956727530046973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-32314674847623816682007-09-20T19:40:00.000-07:002007-09-20T19:40:00.000-07:00That is so rude. I wonder if his manager knows he...That is so rude. I wonder if his manager knows he's giving 'advice'. Yeah you should definitely go somewhere else.<BR/> Don't feel too bad. He was out of line and you reacted as any person with real feelings would.LittlePeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17890731735785145148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-30638773141528983362007-09-20T19:11:00.000-07:002007-09-20T19:11:00.000-07:00I think that he was rude and he deserved every wor...I think that he was rude and he deserved every word you said to him.mitzhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14271173732942518068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-53681654302782844952007-09-20T19:00:00.000-07:002007-09-20T19:00:00.000-07:00It's not uncommon for me to agree with meno. I do ...It's not uncommon for me to agree with meno. I do again. And when it comes to patient privacy, I absolutely believe that you should stand up for yourself. Yes, he clearly came up against a shenpa for you. And, yes, you scratched the itch. It's hard to quickly realize when the shenpa is being irritated and walk away. It's harder when an attack is so clearly unexpected. Ouch.Livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154719979114564561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-52857319402715909352007-09-20T18:37:00.000-07:002007-09-20T18:37:00.000-07:00I am sorry you are ashamed. I understand because ...I am sorry you are ashamed. I understand because i hate losing my temper. I feel awful about it for a long time.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, i am proud of your articulate set down. He deserved every bit of it for making judgemental and disparaging assumptions.<BR/><BR/>Damn, i wish i had seen it. *grins*menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-62096465172822365822007-09-20T17:54:00.000-07:002007-09-20T17:54:00.000-07:00First of all, move all your prescriptions to anoth...First of all, move all your prescriptions to another pharmacy. If that is not possible, I can only hope that Mr. Nosy will keep his big mouth shut in future.<BR/><BR/>That is incredibly rude and ignorant, to say nothing of unprofessional. I don't think your Buddhist card is in danger, but your blood pressure might be if you ever have to deal with that Nazi again.<BR/><BR/>Short answer: You were right and he was wrong.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.com