tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post200696809245747796..comments2023-11-05T04:23:05.050-08:00Comments on Finding My Way Home: Other People's Choices...thailandchanihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-34993211477835040572008-09-29T18:46:00.000-07:002008-09-29T18:46:00.000-07:00I hope things get better. This morning my husband ...I hope things get better. <BR/><BR/>This morning my husband brought our toddler into our bed to wake up slowly. Five seconds later our middle child crawled between us. One minute later our eldest came, bright declaring, "The whole family is together in this one bed!" It was a lovely start to the morning.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00567374243896229606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-36665125785358124672008-09-28T19:19:00.000-07:002008-09-28T19:19:00.000-07:00It's not crap, Chani. What you are asking for is ...It's not crap, Chani. What you are asking for is a basic human need. You said it:<BR/><BR/>"I want some peace."<BR/><BR/>MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-87941615589458991002008-09-28T17:50:00.000-07:002008-09-28T17:50:00.000-07:00I was talking with my son's friend's mom today. S...I was talking with my son's friend's mom today. She's someone who has traveled a bit and seen the outside of this rural community. We were standing in the late afternoon sun squinting toward the sky, talking about how lucky we are to live here. Just what you were saying, surrounded by trees and water, a hike in any direction, a ride in a canoe, a walk with a friend. Ice cream! It's just around the corner. We're blessed, in the ancient way of rock and tree blessing us with each day.<BR/><BR/>Get better.<BR/>Move!Woman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-48009666578671819582008-09-27T21:52:00.000-07:002008-09-27T21:52:00.000-07:00You have put into words much more eloquently than ...You have put into words much more eloquently than I can exactly how I feel.<BR/><BR/>I am very happy with my life because although I am alone, it is peaceful. There is no more anger, control, and walking on egg shells in my life. I get to dictate who I associate with and for how long.Leannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928537274114663807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-21018438202004652142008-09-27T14:02:00.000-07:002008-09-27T14:02:00.000-07:00I'm happy because you asked me to tell you somethi...I'm happy because you asked me to tell you something that made me happy.<BR/><BR/>Connection.<BR/><BR/>:)menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-31244935199331869922008-09-27T12:40:00.000-07:002008-09-27T12:40:00.000-07:00Chani, I hope you're feeling better soon. I send ...Chani, I hope you're feeling better soon. I send warm thoughts your direction. As to your other comments, my father always (has always) says that we have two choices, to have a relationship with someone or to try to control them, but we can never have / do both. I think this is very true. As for me, I'm enjoying the beauty of autumn. The colours are so vibrant that I almost have to pinch myself. I know it sounds simple, but it is so peaceful.Carlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08423696800295940382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-31049507161303493122008-09-27T09:31:00.000-07:002008-09-27T09:31:00.000-07:00Ah, Chani, I am sorry you are in a dark place. De...Ah, Chani, I am sorry you are in a dark place. Depression is a hard place to be, I understand. There is hope, really.<BR/><BR/>My tools: I write a gratitude list (even when I am in depression, I use this tool). I walk. I try to find something to laugh about each day. And when all else fails, I turn to those who I know love me unconditionally and let them carry me.<BR/><BR/>Namaste.DivaJoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02534571327558009753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-7757581395664573402008-09-27T07:39:00.000-07:002008-09-27T07:39:00.000-07:00Good morning. I have a blog award for you at my pl...Good morning. I have a blog award for you at my place.Ruth Hull Chatlienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08797146501548509911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-79651071581024702902008-09-27T06:10:00.000-07:002008-09-27T06:10:00.000-07:00I am happy because my husband gets home from deplo...I am happy because my husband gets home from deployment in a week and a half and our baby girl is due to be born in 6 weeks.Staciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03864188943134274344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-37339860146484722832008-09-27T04:53:00.000-07:002008-09-27T04:53:00.000-07:00Chani, I hope you are feeling better than you were...Chani, I hope you are feeling better than you were at the time of posting this. I can't cope with hearing other peoples anger either. So something I am really happy about is living where I do now. Finally I have a home in a quiet neighbourhood. It is so wonderfully peaceful.<BR/><BR/>Another happy thing in my life is that I am on holidays as of yesterday and my bf is coming home tomorrow after three weeks away. I am so happy about this!<BR/><BR/>Wishing you well<BR/>xxAnnie Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-21341157110483780962008-09-26T23:21:00.000-07:002008-09-26T23:21:00.000-07:00I survived. That is never bad.I survived. That is never bad.flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-34818998364201038182008-09-26T18:19:00.000-07:002008-09-26T18:19:00.000-07:00Chani - I am late to this, but what a post, I have...Chani - I am late to this, but what a post, I have to comment.<BR/><BR/>I grateful and happy just to be alive. I have never had less money but there is so much more simplicity to my life. <BR/><BR/>While I must go back to work in some fashion, being a "senior executive" is not likely in the cards. I have shed that skin.<BR/><BR/>While I was able to do that job with my integrity largely in tact, it does occupy a corner of your soul no matter how small.<BR/><BR/>That corner is now free.<BR/><BR/>As for you- I see in you this desire to be free from other people's anger and control issues, to be more free, more peaceful.<BR/><BR/>That is beautiful.<BR/><BR/>I wish you peace always beautiful Chani, peace, sweet peace.Franhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07181529277715646835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-11959534810212334912008-09-26T17:03:00.000-07:002008-09-26T17:03:00.000-07:00My life is good for all the things you said - I ha...My life is good for all the things you said - I have a roof over my head and I'm not hungry and I have people who love me. I also have books to read and friends to discuss and debate with and walks in the sunshine. I get to help people every day and that gives me a great deal of joy. This all must sound cliche, but these are the things that give me peace.<BR/><BR/>I hope you can get some respite from the strife.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362687820368214420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-55697556630531408052008-09-26T14:36:00.000-07:002008-09-26T14:36:00.000-07:00Well, let me first say how much I enjoy your blog....Well, let me first say how much I enjoy your blog. It is always one of the first I pick out of my feed reader because I am always eager to see what you have to say. I appreciate your thoughtful, reasoned, ethical approach to your struggles so much. <BR/><BR/>Today I am happy because I feel that the little spot I live in on earth was made just for me. I am continually charmed by it, even though it is in the middle of a densely populated block full of loud stereos and screamers...somehow the breeze, the banana trees, the fact that I have my own tiny house back off the street behind a gate...it appeals to me so much. The contrast between it and the large, "lovely" suburban home I used to live in that was filled with putdowns and emotional disconnection and empty materialism is so great that I appreciate this place even more. <BR/><BR/>I hope you find your place.SUEB0Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16301963922769609715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-79507951502749322302008-09-26T13:46:00.000-07:002008-09-26T13:46:00.000-07:00This is no crap...and I'm glad you post this."...w...This is no crap...and I'm glad you post this.<BR/><BR/>"...we don't have much right to be so chronically dissatisfied."<BR/><BR/>True. That is why, I make it a point to do Thankful Thursday...though every moment is the best time to be thankful, I realize doing that puts me in constant drive to count my blessings.<BR/><BR/>Today, I feel good...must be the nice sleep. My moods and state of mind has been way better the past days...I think sleep was one thing missing in my life then...LOL<BR/><BR/>Ah Chani, for all the time that I get to wake up and function, I rejoice with all my heart. After all, this seems to be so impossible years back when I was diagnosed with BP...and guess what I have proven them wrong. :)Mariposahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01579498152424812005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-81024877490413181212008-09-26T13:33:00.000-07:002008-09-26T13:33:00.000-07:00Chani,I hear your longing for somewhere outside th...Chani,<BR/><BR/>I hear your longing for somewhere outside the unrest and cultural stridency (is that a word?)...somewhere to just <B>be</B> without so much going on. I truly think I would die if I were robbed of the silence here...and the trees...and the sounds of the woods...<BR/><BR/>I do think that your spirit will thrive when it can rest and regenerate and feed in nature. It's true that things are more remote in a rural area, but with the Internet, it's really not that noticeable, not that you would miss it anyway. Well, that's my bias---I'm not much for cities. I'd forgotten how much each person's life encroaches on the other, overlaps, intrudes...<BR/><BR/>Toxicity in an environment always makes one sick. <BR/><BR/>I hope you feel better soon.<BR/><BR/>Love, OOliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-69122863719300190592008-09-26T11:59:00.000-07:002008-09-26T11:59:00.000-07:00My child wrote: To Nana this morning and it's the ...My child wrote: To Nana this morning and it's the first two words she'd strung together. that was really, really terrific.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-87476133447576708832008-09-26T11:50:00.001-07:002008-09-26T11:50:00.001-07:00PS: If you're a Phil Ochs fan it can only speak ve...PS: If you're a Phil Ochs fan it can only speak very well of you. There are few of us left.Ian Lidsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106994463366766471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-18989609796948954872008-09-26T11:50:00.000-07:002008-09-26T11:50:00.000-07:00I am glad you posted what you called 'crap' for it...I am glad you posted what you called 'crap' for it was no such thing.<BR/>I detest the sound of voices raised in anger. It has a visceral effect on me because it reminds me too much of my almost constantly fighting parents and takes me to a childhood place I loathed and feared.Ian Lidsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106994463366766471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-61768366809849628292008-09-26T11:40:00.000-07:002008-09-26T11:40:00.000-07:00Been there done that. I live in a meadow in the mi...Been there done that. I live in a meadow in the middle of a square mile, half a mile from the road, and have six pets who can roam at will without fear. Birds, and critter sounds are all we hear. Cities suck because you can't evade the private pathos of neighbors. Hope you find a solution my dear. There are better ways of living. But of course, some folks get energized in cities. I don't, but that's what makes the world go round. Better days I pray for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-7731418567635007082008-09-26T11:05:00.000-07:002008-09-26T11:05:00.000-07:00I am happy to still be here even if it entails wor...I am happy to still be here even if it entails worrying and sometimes complaining about things I can't change.<BR/><BR/>Yesterday, while out walking on a very upscale street, I overheard a woman angrily kvetching into her cell phone while feeding quarters into the parking meter where she had parked her new Jaguar. She was livid because the realtor who was selling her property was unsatisfactory and there was a contract binding her to their arrangement.<BR/><BR/>And I thought that if she owns a property in SF, a town full of homeless people, she has nothing to complain about. I know that money cannot buy happiness, but it can certainly relieve the causes of most people's unhappiness.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-12675248470693835102008-09-26T10:49:00.000-07:002008-09-26T10:49:00.000-07:00i'm happy that my brother and i have grown a lot c...i'm happy that my brother and i have grown a lot closer over the last few weeks.<BR/><BR/>feel better, chani.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-72328800388107563482008-09-26T10:38:00.000-07:002008-09-26T10:38:00.000-07:00" don't have much right to be so chronically dissa..." don't have much right to be so chronically dissatisfied" you are so right. i think about this same thing often in terms of myself, in terms of other people....<BR/><BR/>why has being disasatisfied become such a status symbol. because I think it has. we all claim to want to be happy, but it seems we get a lot more attention for being unhappy, and so choose that path instead<BR/><BR/>hmmm... and now that has me thinking of something else I was contemplating posting on... hmm... we'll see what comes of all of this in my brain...painted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-84875297736986534162008-09-26T09:22:00.000-07:002008-09-26T09:22:00.000-07:00I'm happy because my dog Grace dug a massive hole ...I'm happy because my dog Grace dug a massive hole in the back yard.<BR/><BR/>The reason that makes me happy is because four years ago the vet told me she only had about six months left to live, yet here she is, happy and healthy and getting into mischief.<BR/><BR/>Yay!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34955137.post-26423621741081074902008-09-26T09:19:00.000-07:002008-09-26T09:19:00.000-07:00I'm happy that I had a good sleep, that after a fo...I'm happy that I had a good sleep, that after a foggy few hours this morning that I'm feeling human, that ND is having a much better day and that's she's napping peacefully right now.Anvilcloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.com