Sunday, November 25, 2007

Synchronicity is the root of coincidence....

This week for Sacred Life Sunday, I decided to write about the whole concept of synchronicity.

This past weekend, I made a decision that needed to be made a long time ago but inertia got the better of me. I am going to be moving from here sooner rather than later.

A lot of things plagued me about this decision. First, and the primary thing, is that I am a control freak. Risk is not my friend. Leaving things to chance is not something I am comfortable with at all. I like things planned and calculated for risk and having a Plan B for every situation keeps me in my comfort zone. I also play absolute hell with my rather weird sense of ethics. Things came to mind like "what if she dies alone because I abandoned her?" I battled a lot with trying to create a balance between what might be an entirely selfish decision with what on some levels is strictly healthy self-preservation.

While meditating in the garden, I began acknowledging the six directions, the winged and four-legged creatures, the water, the sky, the rocks, and all living things ... something I practiced and continue to practice since my time in Thailand. The fact that yesterday was a significant Thai holiday during which people honor water had me in that frame of mind anyway. I talked out loud to these spirits as I pulled weeds and removed dead blooms from many bushes and plants. Sometimes I stopped to play a dedication on my penny whistle. This is probably as close as I get to what might be considered conventional prayer.

Prayer works best when it is not for anything in particular. It just opens a dialogue. But that doesn't matter, not really, as a message from God, the Gods or however you define That Which Is Bigger Than All Of Us is usually incomprehensible or passed over and not noticed — not immediately anyway.

Yet as the day went along I began to notice the answers to my concerns in the form of a phone call and a visit from someone I know will help the person I am concerned about after I leave.

The pieces fell together as I realized how I can execute the move without either getting into debt or having it cause a great deal of upset. It was as clear as if it had been given to me on a step-by-step list.

I know I will be able to leave here with a free heart, knowing that I am not leaving anything behind that will create harm. It still amazes me that we can give up some control and trust the flow. This has been my most difficult lesson. I needed this obvious synchronicity to drive the point home, to put me at peace with my choice. It is very reassuring to know that I can make some decisions on my own behalf, because they benefit me, and still know that I will not be leaving a trail of harm behind.

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Just a reminder: If you would like to participate in Accentuate the Positive for December, please forward your post (or someone else's) to thailandchani at earthlink by the last day of November.
The objective of the link list is to offer a series of posts that emphasize good news whether it is your personal good news or something happening in your community. It is just a good reminder of the good that surrounds us.

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21 comments:

heartinsanfrancisco said...

The visit from the caretaker who will be your successor was your answer from the gods, their blessing on your move toward your own destiny.

You have worked off any karma you may have had with the people in Sacramento, and to dally longer would be to interfere with the master plan for your life.

I'd be surprised if you are not feeling much lighter and freer since you made your decision, and it will all fall into place inexorably now, as it must.

Congratulations on arriving at this exciting new plateau!

painted maypole said...

"Prayer works best when it is not for anything in particular. It just opens a dialogue" i find this to be so true, and yet I am so bad at it. I am terrible at listening. I often go in with a list of requests. Or even a list of things to be thankful for. but the dialogue part? i'm really bad at it.

Great post

jen said...

i can only imagine how good this decision must feel, how strong the pull is to head east, and how peaceful you must feel with nudging it up closer - with help, of course from the universe.

i am happy for you, chani.

Sheri said...

thank you for your comments about my journal and art.... you know i have a friend from thailand... she goes home to visit sometimes and brings my kiddies and i little gifts.. she also cooks for my kiddies sometimes... its awsome... i hope your move goes well... is it to thailand?

Christine said...

i am glad things are falling into place for you, chani.

slouching mom said...

Oh! I'm so happy to hear this, Chani!

Amy Y said...

Oh Chani ~ how fantastic for you!! You are so sweet to worry about your loved one and I'm happy to hear that someone else will be able to help out so you can realize your dreams. How soon do you think you'll be able to go? I'm so happy for you! :) Love seeing people attain their goals and dreams...

niobe said...

What a wonderful thing to see the path that you are going to take and be able to start the journey to the place your heart wants to go.

Interesting thought about prayer. I never ask for anything -- at least not for myself -- when I pray because I'm far too afraid that the answer will be "no."

Julie Pippert said...

What a wonderful thing to come to, Chani. I am so glad for you!!

I will have an accentuate the positive, I hope, this week after the Mothers for Clean Air.

Julie
Using My Words

QT said...

What a wonderful development, Chani! I am so happy for you that the path is being made clear.

And I envy that you get to work in your garden at all....

Dandelion seeds said...

hey thanks for stopping by my site! Loved reading your thoughts on synchronicity!

Rimarama said...

How awesome it is when you are still enough to recognize and interpret an answered prayer. I'm glad that things are looking up for you, Chani, and that you feel confident in your decision.

Wayfarer Scientista said...

yay! congratulations chani. I am happy for you and I look forward to hearing about it.

storyteller said...

I'm happy for you Chani! I experienced a similar synchronus chain of events in 2001 (when I finally said YES to retirement) and have believed ever after that "coincidence" is God's way of remaining anonymous :)

Wishing you all the best (and hoping you'll continue to post on your Blog even after you return to Thailand).
Hugs and blessings,

MsLittlePea said...

How wonderful for you. And how relieved you must feel. Now you can start a new part of your life before going home to Thailand.

Aliki2006 said...

I'm happy for you, too! I hope everything works out and I'm glad you've found some peace.

Sober Briquette said...

I'm glad you were able to recognize the answers. I envy you the quiet time - I desperately need to be alone and I never, ever, ever am. That's why I love the shower so much!

blooming desertpea said...

That is the best thing that can happen to you - the answer falling right into your lap (a saying here).

Peace to you and everyone.

Ian Lidster said...

Logic dictates to me that I shouldn't believe in synchronicity, yet I do. I have experienced it, and have written blogs about it on a couple of occasions.
In a way it helps keep me from going mad because it suggests an order, rather than randomness, in the universe.

Catherine said...

This post shows two of the reasons why I like you so much - the content of the post, and the fact that you used the word Synchronicity. :)

Snoskred said...

This is fantastic news! :) I too hope you will take us with you on your journey. ;)