Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Wellness Wednesday: Nothing is lost that can't be replaced....


Throughout this whole car debacle, I've come to understand how much easier life can be when we don't get caught up in the drama.

During this process, I've been watching other people. The representatives of the insurance company, the neighbors, the person who caught the license plate number of the hit-and-run driver, the body shop that has been storing it.... the cast of characters goes on and on.

And I'm the only one who is detached. I am the only one who doesn't have a strong feeling of urgency.

Don't get me wrong. I'm very grateful for the people who have been helping me. I'm not indifferent to them. The insurance company (Nationwide, in case anyone is curious) has been helpful beyond the call of duty. That's a crapshoot though. It all depends on the claims representative and I got a good one.

The point of this is that I can't see getting upset about any of it. Granted, it's an inconvenience. It's more administration than I am accustomed to dealing with. Phone calls, DMV trips and trips to the body shop to release the vehicle to the insurance company. In the end though, it was just a car and both the person who hit it and I are okay. Nothing was lost that can't be replaced. In the end, that's all that matters.

It's been a long time that I've tried to reach this level, to be able to remain this calm during something that pulls me in contact with the systems, with phone calls, with negotiating, with all the things I most dislike doing ~ and still come out of it okay. No physical symptoms at all.

Now if I can just maintain it! Not only in this situation but in all similar situations!


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15 comments:

citizen of the world said...

Unless it's a body part - those typically can't be replaced.

But yes, it's true - none of us are exmpt form hardship.

Olivia said...

That's great news Chani. I hope that you are there too as well. I know that I sometimes get into overwhelm when there are too many of these things all at once...but then things can always be slowed down. I need to remember this, as I'm writing to you.

It sounds like all went so very well. It bodes very well for your move!

Love,

O

heartinsanfrancisco said...

You can maintain it because you seem to have reached a deep understanding of what really matters, and what does not.

It isn't easy to negotiate the maze of various agencies and their representatives without wanting to clobber someone, and having managed that, you are well ahead of the game.

The car will be replaced. And you have already replaced unnecessary drama with a peaceful acceptance of the things you can't change. We should all strive to attain that level of comfort while dealing with life's unpleasant surprises.

Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

It sounds that you have attained a helpful perspective on all of this. It's a good reminder to all of us, especially as so many people are facing different kinds of losses.

Mary G said...

Good for you! I wish I could have maintained my cool when I hit the second deer. I will try to take your example if a third one teleports in front of my poor Jeep.

Cold Spaghetti said...

I second that 'good for you' -- all of us could take a lesson in remembering the big picture sometimes!!

starrlife said...

That is wonderful news. There have been so many changes for you lately! I'm glad you're feeling well and at the top of your game so to speak!

Carol said...

Nice!

ConverseMomma said...

I want to lose myself, my ego. I want to start fresh and new in this act of letting go. I want to be able not to freak out over bills and books and the bindings of everyday life. I'm curious about you, how you got to this place.

Woman in a Window said...

Chani, isn't it a tremendous gift when this happens? When calm remains. Lovely, you.

Brandi said...

and then bottle it and sell it to the rest of us!! LOL.

painted maypole said...

my hubby is really good about this kind of stuff, usually. losing all his belongings in a house fire made him realize that stuff is just stuff

Border Explorer said...

Simply and only the title of this post enriched me. But the content is great, too. I will remember this mantra. And I'm glad you are OK.

Anvilcloud said...

Glad you're going with the flow. You mentioned a hope to do this in little things as well. Strange how the little things can throw us.

slouching mom said...

Can you spare some of that equanimity? ;)