Thursday, February 08, 2007

More space cadets and romance....

I appreciate all the comments left about this topic. So many of you brought up points I hadn't considered.

Lisa Nowak is a troubled woman. I have no doubt about that. As one person mentioned, the booking picture of her barely conceals her madness. Ultimately, I hope she will get the help she needs.

Romance has always seemed bizarre to me anyway, so my limited understanding renders my opinions rather meaningless in the long run. I don't understand "craving" another person ~ or needing validation on that level. While a good man/woman, woman/woman, man/man relationship can definitely add substance and security to our lives, I don't understand the drive toward it. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it won't.

I've always known that I'd be completely okay alone, if that is how my life works out. There are so many things to be learned and experienced that I can fill up two lifetimes, partnered or alone.

Somehow, it seems Lisa Nowak got confused about many things. This story will be an interesting one as it unfolds. I do find it amusing to watch NASA go into damage-control mode, wanting to screen astronauts to make sure they don't have any red flags indicating they could be potential stalkers. Typical of government. They believe that everything can be prevented. It can't. There is no screening that would have prevented Lisa Nowak from answering the demons in her head.

I also want to take a few lines here to wish Jen safe travels during her trip to El Salvador. I'm going into whirlwinds of fantasy about warm beaches and friendly people.

Oh, crap. Darn it! I'm thinking about Thailand again. LOL

At any rate, safe travels, Jen. :)


Peace,


~Chani

8 comments:

Mayou said...

Romance is bizarre? What "romance" is? To fall in love? you are not in love with Thailand? each one one's madness...

Thailand Gal said...

Mayou, yes.. I have to admit that I find romance to be a rather bizarre concept. :)

"In love" with Thailand? Not really. I love it the way one would love a country. I am concerned about its future. I care about the people .. but it's not being "in love" as I understand the meaning of that phrase.


Peace,

~Chani

Mayou said...

Maybe romance is bizarre, but one cannot live without it.
Let's say Thailand is a man. You are concerned about his future, care about his siblings, want to learn his language, share his culture, are inhabited by his music and charmed by his songs, are wrapped into his cloth(e)s, you want to live overthere the rest of your life... You are in love!

MsLittlePea said...

That's a good one. I've been married happily for a long time. But I've never been scared of being alone or the sort of person who always HAS to have someone to be with. It just fell together that way and I think my independence was one of the things my husband liked-still likes. I love him but I was happy when I lived alone too. Being alone and being lonely are 2 different things to me. I always cringe when, in a movie, someone says-"I can't live without you" I always think why not-don't you like yourself? And I definitely get disgusted over jealous behavior, I don't want to be 'owned'.
I think romance is bizarre too-just look at all the V-day commercials:"buy this necklace if you really love your wife" and then some people go and treat each other like crap for the rest of the year.....until Christmas.

Pam said...

I have to echo mslittlepea, couldn't have said it better.

jen said...

did i miss a post about sex somehow?

i think i did. (stomping foot)

xo and thank you.

Thailand Gal said...

Mayou, that is an interesting parallel. I'd never equated the two in any way. "In love" is usually reserved for a human-to-human relationship, opposed to a person-to-country relationship.

As for Thailand, yes, I definitely love it. It is the singularly most important connection in my life... but there's still plenty of room for the other human-to-human love.. if that should occur. At the same time, I don't crave it. Truthfully, I can't even say I "crave" Thailand. I do feel an emptiness though .. not being there .. because it's "home". It's where I am rooted. It is where my feet connect to the earth.

Some interesting thoughts to consider though. Thanks. :)


Peace,

~Chani

Thailand Gal said...

Ms Pea, you have said it best, as others have already acknowledged. A primary relationship is icing on the cake .. but that is all.

Likewise, I have no tolerance for jealous behavior or possessive behavior. I live in a "no drama" zone.. and that includes being a slave to the insecurities of another.

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Pam, yep.. she said it all. :)

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Jen, yes.. my original post this morning was about sex. I still want to write a post about it but that one just didn't seem right. It was truly sitting there quivering.

I'll think about it more though and get another post out on the topic. It's always fun to talk about sex. :)

Mai pen rai. You're welcome. :) Just come back to us safe and sound.


Peace,

~Chani